Just a quick reminder before we start, you are doing great and to cut yourself a bit of slack every now and then 😛
One: Don’t let doubt in
Doubt is a dangerous thing, it can start as a small inconspicuous thought but can snowball into much more. Of course doubting is natural, we all do it and it is good to an extent but I think it can easily get out of hand without us even realising.
Learn to believe and trust yourself – this is easier said then done but trying to is better then letting doubt take over and control your life and decisions.
Two: Listen
By listen, I mean learning from others and listening to yourself and what you need. When you are unsure, observe what other people do. Don’t copy them, just learn from them – see their good choices and mistakes then go from there – it is just like research for an assignment you get the basic ideas from others and build upon it into make something you believe in.
Also listen to yourself – what do you need? How much should you push? These are important questions. Just make sure you don’t get caught up on them too much, because I’ve been there (so if you do then skip to steps 1 and 5).
Three: Don’t ask why
When you are faced with troubling times in your life, you deal with sadness, stress and grief. After this initial shock you begin to ask why. Why does this happen? Don’t ask why. It won’t help how you feel. Unless it’s a regular everyday type issue with an answer to be found, don’t ask why. Most things in life don’t have an explanation, things just happen so it’s best to not dwell.
Four: Don’t be afraid of setbacks
These are learning experiences and the more you have the stronger you become. Use them to your advantage – learn and grow from them.
Being scared of a set back I became trained to find problems, to look for any signs of trouble to avoid getting worse. But this made me only see the bad as I only looked for the bad. Although I was a positive person and celebrated when I did well with even the smallest improvements. I would compare them with the worse times thus creating this continuous cycle of bad. The worse times even crept into the better ones. It is important to separate them and scan the body for good. Look for the good for a change, forget the bad.
Five: Love
Cliché as it sounds but love is important. It can come from the people around you or how you spend your time doing the things you love. But most importantly it should primarily come from you. Self-love is so important. You live with yourself every second of the day, its easier if you learn to love yourself and every quirk you have 😛 Look after yourself and also spread the love around. Kindness to others goes a long way.
Thanks for reading 🙂 If you have any tips or comments please share them below! Hope you’re having a great day! Don’t forget to be fearless x
I recently received a message of hate this blog post. I just wanted to address it to clarify a point I made. They believed happiness was an emotion rather than a state if being. Yes, happiness is an emotion but just like anything in life that is important, I believe where we can we should do some preparation and take the help we can get. You wouldn’t build a house without the guidance of a blueprint, so why would you wing something so important as your own happiness? I’m not saying my post was the key to happiness, it was simply what I have found helpful. I believe being aware of the way we think can be essential to our happiness and what you do today will affect your future.
I recently received a message of hate this blog post. I just wanted to address it to clarify a point I made. They believed happiness was an emotion rather than a state if being. Yes, happiness is an emotion but just like anything in life that is important, I believe where we can we should do some preparation and take the help we can get. You wouldn’t build a house without the guidance of a blueprint, so why would you wing something so important as your own happiness? I’m not saying my post was the key to happiness, it was simply what I have found helpful. I believe being aware of the way we think can be essential to our happiness and what you do today will affect your future.
50 COMMENTS
Shenna
6 years agoI totally agree with listening and loving Susie. Self-love, for me, is the primary reason for happiness. If we choose to accept who we really are, we then make things more easier, and we surround ourselves with happy people too. 🙂
Susie
6 years agoYes! It really makes a big difference in life <3
Simply Avalon
6 years agoI totally agree with everything you said and would actually like to add what I heard from a wonderful keynote speaker this past week. Live life knowing that you Loved hard, Laughed hard, and Lived hard. 🙂
– Avalon from simplyavalon.blogspot.com
The Nerdy Me
6 years agoThese five things are exactly what all of us need to achieve a happier life and the outlook on it. I completely agree with you!
-Leta | The Nerdy Me
Mercy F
6 years agoI believe these are all true and can actually help to live more happily. I like the self-love, loving yourself and serving others. Another great post from you dear!
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Isabelle
6 years agoSuch a great post, thanks for sharing!
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Rosanna Briguglio
6 years agoGreat tips, I totally agree with numbers 1 and 4!
Have a lovely day 🙂
Rosanna x
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Kate Rattley
6 years agoThis is really lovely, I often forget to listen to myself and to what I need. I've flitted between the extremes and it's never ended well. These five are the perfect components.
Kate || http://www.katerattley.com
Dressed With Soul
6 years agoI absolutely agree and I think it is especially important to listen 🙂
xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
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Shea Sayers
6 years agoThese are great tips. I love what you said about not asking why–we're all tempted to do that when times are tough but it leads nowhere!
Susie
6 years agoThat's a lovely quote, thank you so much for sharing <3
Susie
6 years agoAw thank you 🙂
Susie
6 years agoThanks so much <3 Self love and serving others is so important 🙂
Susie
6 years agoThanks for reading!
Susie
6 years agoThanks 🙂
Susie
6 years agoYes we often forget to just take some time out to really stop and listen <3 Thanks so much for reading 🙂
Susie
6 years agoIt really is 🙂
Susie
6 years agoYes its not always as helpful as we think :/ xx
Daniella
6 years agoGreat article. Thanks for sharing it. 5 simple points so often forgotten
Jen Cabildo
6 years agoI really loved your post, really good points! ♥
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Tania Jayne
6 years agoSuch a fantastic post! I've been working on step 1 recently. I've noticed I'm doubting myself a lot and it's really not helpful. I'd rather spend that energy making myself even better at the things I love. Xx
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Susie
6 years agoThanks for reading 🙂
Susie
6 years agoThanks so much 🙂
Susie
6 years agoIt is so easy to doubt, I'm so glad you are working on it 🙂
Missy May
6 years agoYou couldn't have put it any better. Agreed! I'm working on not doubting. That is an area of struggle for sure, but learning to trust God, pray and not thinking about whatever the case may be. Thanks for this post. 🙂
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Susie
6 years agoIt is really difficult to stop doubting, working on using faith always helps <3
Elisa
6 years agoSuch an interesting post and perfect tips! It's so important taking care of ourselves!
xx Elisa
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Veronica Lucy
6 years agoWonderful post, love it! ♥
Maybe follow for follow? 🙂
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cielofronteras
6 years agoThanks for sharing this inspirational post =)
– Cielo
Mermaid in Heels
Susie
6 years agoThank you 🙂
Susie
6 years agoThanks 🙂
Susie
6 years agoThanks for reading 🙂
Straight A Style
6 years agoGood tips to being proactive about happiness.
Amy Ann
Straight A Style
Laura Mitbrodt
6 years agothese are all great tips, thanks for sharing
xo
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Diana Maria
6 years agoWhat wonderful tips, thank you so much for sharing these! Not being afraid of setbacks is important, since setbacks are inevitable and they don't mean you're failing or doing it wrong! Loving yourself and listening are also things we must try to do, as difficult as it may be. I hope you have a lovely week xx
Sending light & love your way,
My Lovelier Days
Jen Cabildo
6 years agoWhat a beautiful post, so inspiring! ♥
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Susie
6 years agoThanks 🙂
Susie
6 years agoThanks for reading 🙂
Susie
6 years agoI agree 🙂 Thanks for reading, hope you had a lovely week!
Susie
6 years agoThank you xx
Adele Miner
6 years agoSuch a positive post, and so helpful. Thank you for sharing! I am so impressed with your blog too by the way, you are doing an amazing job with it! x
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Velvet Blush
6 years agoI agree, I do sometimes find myself asking 'why' and it is really easy to get bogged down by it all, but sometimes you have to look into the long term 🙂 xx
Velvet Blush
Izabela Nair
6 years agoI love these tips. I think it's important not too let doubt overwhelm you.
Her Hive
Susie
6 years agoThanks so much! That is so lovely of you to say 🙂 I really appreciate it xx
Susie
6 years agoYes exactly, asking why can be so exhausting <3
Susie
6 years agoSame here 🙂 Thanks for reading x
jehan mohammad
6 years agoi like the thoughts..
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Susie
6 years agoThank you 🙂
Gemma
6 years agoWhat a lovely post! Thank you so much for sharing!
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Susie
6 years agoThank you 🙂